We don’t always see eye-to-eye with our loved ones when it comes to religion, politics … or art. That last topic is the focus of a recent essay by Jami Moss Wise in the online art publication "Burnaway."
In this conversation, she gave her thoughts on some of the real reasons she believes our tastes diverge, as well as a few tips on getting through a conversation or two this holiday season while keeping things merry and bright.
On Keeping Things Civil While Talking Arts with Your Family
- Consider why this person's tastes differ from your own. You might like art that pushes you out of your comfort zone, while your in-laws may feel just the opposite. As Moss Wise says of her mother, "She doesn't want art that's going to force her into examining aspects of her life that she's already thought through."
- Never try to tell a person why his or her tastes are "wrong." No one is expert enough to be able to claim to have the "right" tastes.
- "Listen," says Moss Wise, "and ask them questions" about why they like what they like. Be kind to one another. It's the holidays, after all.
- If all else fails, change the subject to something pleasant. "It's a classic southern move," she says. She suggests: food.